I really appreciate all of the input. For a variety of reasons my wife and I want out of Connecticut even though we both have lived our entire lives here and I have family here and we have 4 grandchildren here.
We will be visiting my mom soon. She lives in The Villages, Florida. She's been there 18+ years and loves it but I need to see how she is really doing. We lost my dad this past October and mom will be 82 soon. We don't want to move to Florida but may have to. We would not live in The Villages itself if we had to move to Florida.
As for the Lincoln County, NC area, we have friends there and there is some type of car event happening almost every day of the year. My friend works at a restoration shop, which is a plus. I do some drag racing and there are a couple of small tracks plus Charlotte close to that area. I am also a NASCAR fan. More importantly, it's just a bit south of being halfway between our grand-kids and my mom, warmer than CT but not as hot as Florida and it's also a within a days drive of Carlisle, PA. Going to be checking out the Lincoln County area on our way to Florida. My friend tells me they only got snow once this Winter and it was only 1.5" and went away quickly.
One consideration is that I will need to find a job wherever we land and my wife needs to be near a place that offers the specialized medical care that she needs. I know that SC has some tax advantages. I'm not a beach person and don't want to deal with hurricanes so I have no interest in being on the coast. Wouldn't mind being near a nice lake.
Stopped for lunch in Asheville last year and found the traffic to be horrible on a Saturday but we weren't there long enough to make any type of determination on the area. Just starting to figure out where to be. There is a house for sale in Lincoln County that might be right for us. The hole prospect of relocating is both scary and exciting at the same time.