It has been tough on me this year

[LizB]

It has been tough on me this year and moving on very well.Went through a divorce,ex husband did cheat on me booting him out in June.It was hard on me,he betrayed me in a terrible way which the lies from came out too.Cheated on me 3 times and I could not take it anymore.It was in June I caught him redhanded.With me being a Marines veteran,I sounded like a drill instructor telling him get out of my house and not to come back.He had this oh crap look on his face knowing he got on my Marines side.I divorced him in August and felt free knowing I deserved better.It was finally a couple weeks ago my family and friends saw something was not right with me and they were right.I am starting to see a therapist whom diagnosed me with CPTSD last week.Therapist said it was from the infidelity my husband put me through and see her next week Tuesday for the next step.

 

[detmatt]

Hey Liz, I’m sorry for what you went through and glad that you found the strength and courage to move on. Having your Chrysler could end up being therapeutic, although the classics are tough to enjoy this time of year here in Michigan. How about sharing a picture or two of that car?

 

[Pete Kaczmarski]

I went thru the same with my ex-wife years ago now. I remember her stating she would also go thru counseling (when still married) but she changed her mind. In her case denial of her Mother being an alcoholic and how that affects you growing up and then as an adult. I continued on and the counselor helped me to understand and help to never repeat. That was 25 years ago. I never got remarried but dating the same woman 24 years. Last year I gave her an engagement ring but she understands I probably will never get married again. She is also divorced about the same length of time After this many years of being single I'm certainly O.K. with that. Remember to listen to your counselor (I mean that), rely on the support of family and friends. For me relying on my faith and attending church worked for me. Good Luck.......

 

[live4theking]

Liz,
I'm sorry to hear that this year has been such a rough one. I'll be praying for you. Thank you for your service to our country. Pete didn't say it as advice, but becoming involved in a good solid faith community can mean the world of difference.
John

 

[LizB]

Getting the New Yorker out for a drive has helped.It is at a friend's shop at the moment,engine rebuild is being done

 

[Rwc]

Sorry to hear. He sounds like he might be genetically connected to my first wife. Always darkest before the dawn, as they day. You sound like you have your stuff together and I bet you will be fine in the long run

 

[75LandYacht]

Liz, from One military person to another, and there’s plenty of us on this site.. thank you for your service. Joining the service proves your strength.. you’ll get through this! As it is said! “This too shall pass”. Having a hobby, such as this site and your car, helps occupy your mind away from the demon thoughts that can ruin you. Thanks for trusting/ sharing your personal life with us.. hang in there!!

 

[Ironwolf]

Stay strong Liz, Stay strong !!!!

I went through a nasty divorce back 10 plus years ago after I found out my wife was seeing our family therapist (for what I would call some very private extra in-depth therapy with him) It truly does suck especially after 26 years of marriage and three kids. I have since moved on and then some getting married again in 2014 again and cannot be any happier. All I can say is stay strong and just let it go. I agree with Matt, that your Chrysler will be great therapy not to mention being a part of this group of great folks here on FCBO !!!!

"HAPPY NEW YEARS" !!!!!

 

[Fratzog]

This is a tough time of year. Keep your head up and don't be afraid to share here. At least most of us are good listeners. If it helps to distract tell us what you are doing with the rebuild.

 

[Newport 66]

Thoughts and prayers. Happy New Year.....all things renewed!!!

 

[CBODY67]

Liz, sorry to hear of your situation. Glad you've made efforts to move on from it! The CAR can be a source of increasing joy in your life, as can religious faith. Always look for the "positives" in your life, building on each one to make progress out of possible depressive tendencies. Some things need to NOT be thought about. Although those thoughts can get out of their boxes in your brain, from time to time, causing bad thoughts to return, keeping them locked away behind "double-thick bank vault doors" (and those doors locked!) can help get past "rough spots". Always look toward the future in a positive manner. Onward and upward! You can make it so!

Don't forget to thank your Lord for the great day which has just passed, for all of your blessings in life (although they might not seem that way now), and do what you can to make the world a better place because YOU'RE here.

It's only a few weeks until warmer weather happens . . . which means "car season", perhaps a little longer up north, but it'll be here before you know it. Do things now so you can best enjoy things then!

Thanks for your service and Best of Luck for a better New Year!

CBODY67

 

[Dana]

AND...... If you ever get the chance to run him over, you'll be glad you chose a c-body Chrysler!

 

[stubs300]

Sorry to hear this from a 28+ yrs A.F. Veteran, I have to ask. I know what PTSD is, but what's CPTSD?

 

[moparnutcase]

The "C" stands for complex

 

[LizB]

This is a tough time of year. Keep your head up and don't be afraid to share here. At least most of us are good listeners. If it helps to distract tell us what you are doing with the rebuild.

It is a stock rebuild,it started to smoke.This friend of mine did the checks,a compression check was one of them.So far the machine shop found bad valve guides and going to put in hardened valve seats at the same time.Found bad piston rings.

 

[Fury Pursuit]

Liz,...I sorry to hear about your stress. As you well know, (but many people don't), PTSD doesn't have to come from the battlefield. I hope you find comfort and peace.

MoPar!

 

[FURYGT]

Liz, Thank you for your service. You have a lot of people to lean on that are on this forum and I am sure that I am not the only one that would listen to you, talk and help you get through these tough times. Glad you are seeing a therapist - the right one can make a huge difference in your life.

Bill

 

[LizB]

I found the right therapist,she deals with patients that been with cases like mine including from verbal and physical abuse.

 

[65sporty]

Sounds like your on the right track with a therapist, being your a former Marine you have to be a tough girl I am sure you will come out on the other end of this stronger than ever. Thoughts and prayers for you. We will be here for you if you need to vent.