A good flip phone (not a Cricket) is about $60 at AT&T, in their pre-paid monthly section. Get it changed to your regular account for $10.00 (if you have AT&T) and you're done. FWIW
Civility is a decreasing commodity, unfortunately, but it CAN vary depending upon where you're at and in which online forum.
The "trick" is to find the forum that best suits your demeanor. Some posters do seem to have been reading "elsewhere" or talking to some and then seek out the wisdom of a specialized group of people. In some cases, the poster has little knowledge of what they really need or how to get it, nor understand what might happen in other areas if they DO get what they claim to want/need. I suspect many of us have been there, in the past, at one time or another.
Having good mentors is very important. A "sound byte" is not always a good explanation. Being empathetic with the poster can be better than being judgmental and dismissive. Differences of opinion/orientation are normal as we have a diverse set of personal experiences/history upon which we can base our actions/desires, which is good.
The car hobby has lots of "places to be", by observation. Plenty of room for all to enjoy and grow. Each of us has been where others haven't, and vice-versa. Sharing information helps us all, both in exchanging information/expertise and helping others in what they might be trying to accomplish. Plus expanding our own respective information databases.
Enjoy!
CBODY67